I consider myself to be a fairly reasonable person. I have a good sense of humour and I can see the funny side of things. Looking for the funny side is what makes life more fun. I had a Facebook friend that regularly posted tasteless jokes. They were racist, sexist, and usually offensive. I didn’t really read them, more glanced at them in my timeline. Until tonight. Tonight was the one that went too far and woke the Mama Bear. You can poke fun at me, but as soon as you poke fun at my child, all bets are off.
I tried to get the exact wording of his comment, but gee, he unfriended me after I responded. Here’s the gist of what he said. “I would make a bad doctor because I would tell an expectant mother, there’s good news, and there’s bad news. The good news is your child will never have trouble finding a parking spot.” In what world is it OK to make fun of what parents go through? Finding out your baby is going to have some kind of medical problem is not funny. My comment was brief and to the point. “I understand that this is a joke, but as the parent of a differently abled child, I don’t find it funny.” I was expecting to receive a comment back or something, and maybe open a dialogue, but it appears he was a chicken and just unfriended me instead. If you are going to make jokes about children like mine (and no, Angel is not physically disabled and she doesn’t require handicapped parking), I’m going to stand up and say something.
I’m not a confrontational person, but when it comes to my girls, especially Angel,I will protect them from you and your ignorance. It’s not OK to make jokes about people’s abilities. It’s not OK to imply that kids with different needs are less. I find it really sad that in this day and age, people are still treated as being less because they are different.
I started this site when Angel was little and we were trying to figure out what her special needs were. I wanted to share with other parents and learn what I could. We’re still in the learning stages and I’m excited to say that Angel is having a psych-ed assessment at school over the next few weeks. I’m really hopeful that we will get a definitive diagnosis of sorts so that we can help her to realize her abilities. By the way, Angel is a pseudonym I use for my daughter because I didn’t think it was fair for me to talk about her online under her real name. I know some parents do, but that wasn’t the right path for us.
On a more positive note, I’ve recently come across a website called The Mighty. It’s a very positive site that talks about parents, children, all sorts of people with disabilities and different abilities. It’s really great and you should check it out!