I’ve started this post a few times, but I’m having trouble linking to picture on flickr like I used to. Instead of getting one photo, I’m getting a whole set. I think there is something small that I’m missing, so if you know what it is, let me know. In the meantime, pardon my lack of photos.
Back to grade three.
Angel is really enjoying school this year so far. We made our annual trip to school the week before so that she could meet her teacher. She had been showing signs of anxiety including becoming more aggressive, wetting the bed after not doing so for a while, and climbing into bed with me. Once we met her teacher, she relaxed quite a bit and things were much calmer at home.
Angel’s teacher was very welcoming right from the beginning. He knew Angel hadn’t had a male teacher before and wanted to make her feel comfortable. We saw her new classroom and she got to know him a bit. In typical fashion, Angel didn’t talk much.
My big goal for Angel this year was her social skills. I wanted her to have a play date. Imagine my surprise when she had a play date within the second week of school! She has 2 friends who are new to our school and they seem to be getting a long well. She’s been to both of their houses and they have both been here to play too. She hasn’t had a play date for a couple of weeks, but she seems OK with that.
Angel is learning how to type. She’s been using a variety of methods to show her knowledge at school including recording her speaking about books instead of always righting them down. She still has to write, but it gives her a break every once in awhile. At first, it was hard to get her to try typing, but now she is working on it a little more. Her teacher has told us that she often says she can’t do things (she does this at home too), his response is that you can’t do it yet. What a big difference! She may not be able to do it now, but if she keeps trying, she will be able to. This is great for building her confidence.
In the last two weeks, Angel has learned to tie shoes and how to whistle! I was really surprised how quickly she learned to tie shoes. I feel a little bad for not trying them sooner. I’ve started to realize that I baby her a bit. Instead of giving her lace ups, I have gone out of my way to buy her Velcro or slip-on shoes. I kept saying I would teach her how to tie, but I never got around to it. She decided she wanted to wear a pair of shoes that were hand-me-downs from her sister. She sat with Dad and he showed her how to tie her shoes. She pretty much had it down in a couple of days!
I’m working on not coddling her any more. It’s not easy for me! I have been working with a coach about parenting an active child and Angel has list of things she has to do before breakfast. After a month, I was still reminding her that she needed to do all the things on her list before she could watch television. My coach straight up told me that I’m not doing Angel any favours. She can’t learn to be responsible if I’m always reminding her. So, that night, I told Angel that she wasn’t going to get any more reminders from me. If she put on the television before her stuff was done, she wouldn’t get to watch TV in the afternoon. It worked! So far she hasn’t lost television privileges for that reason. She’s lost them for a couple of other reasons, but that is a different story.
I’m going to keep on working on my parenting skills. After being a mom for 12 years, I’m still learning on the job!
Please let me know if you are in the same boat! I love comments